Big Idea: How you are in your relationship with yourself determines how your relationships with others are.
If you are compassionate with yourself, you have the ability to be compassionate to others. Likewise, If you are fierce with yourself, you are probably fierce with others.
But, Matt! I was raised to put other people first.
Yup. I was, too. But loving yourself isn’t a selfish act. I would argue that it’s a prerequisite to loving others. Loving yourself gives you the awareness and understanding of what love is. Then you can extend it to other people (and pets!)
But, Matt! I read self-help books and listen to self-help podcasts all the time, and still feel like I can’t be truly loving to other people.
There’s a difference between self-love and self-help. Try working on self-acceptance first. Then you’ll have the capacity for improvement.
This week, try this: The next time you extend yourself grace or are proud of something you’ve accomplished, I’ll bet there’s this little inner critic that tries to negate your good feelings. Talk back! Ask that little devil to cite their sources!
Quote: "Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have." ~Robert Holden
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